“Remember that my life is but a breath”

– Job 7:7


You are probably reading this because someone close to you is dying. You want to know how to give comfort, what to say or what to do.

You might want to know how to make dying easier, how to help ensure a peaceful death for your loved one.

Death is challenging and can oftentimes be filled with fear and sadness, but it is also personal and can be affirming and compassionate. Solace in Knowing is here to provide support to the dying and their loved ones, respectfully guiding them through the end-of-life process.

Lisa Petgrave-Nelson, LMSW,OSW-C is a certified oncology social worker and end-of-life doula, with extensive knowledge and background in palliative care, hospice, and end-of-life care. Lisa has spent over ten years supporting terminally ill cancer patients across the continuum from diagnosis to end of life. While those facing death may find it difficult navigating the emotional and practical challenges, Lisa is able to identify and support the psychological needs faced by each individual and their family. She holds space for terminally ill patients, their families, and caregivers, before, during, and after death.

As your end-of-life doula, Lisa is dedicated to being an advocate, making sure your needs and wishes are acknowledged and accomplished. Perhaps you would like to die at home and want to be surrounded by family and friends. Lisa offers holistic and practical services with the goal of initiating these meaningful conversations with loved ones and supporting your pre-planning and end-of-life wishes.

Solace in Knowing offers compassionate end-of-life services, which may include providing companionship, education, coordination with your medical team, respite, or emotional support.

Lisa Petgrave-Nelson, LMSW, OSW-C
Lisa Petgrave-Nelson, LMSW, OSW-C

How can I help you in the end-of-life process?

As your end of life doula, I will meet the dying and their families where they are while guiding them through the end of life.

Partner with the dying and their loved ones, aligning with their wishes to achieve a respectful death.

Provide support, encouragement and advocacy in your time of need.



Trusted end-of-life doula serving patients and their families in Long Island and Queens.



“A mentor is someone who allows you to see the hope inside yourself.” 
— Oprah Winfrey



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I wanted to hire an end-of-life doula to help me work through all the details of preparing for my wife to die. Lisa met with me and my wife in person and ended up participating in the entire process, including supporting me after my wife’s passing. She participated in and actually ran a very difficult family meeting including medical professionals to discuss my wife’s condition, prognosis, and care plan. She provided both logistical and emotional support throughout the process. She worked equally well in person and remotely. I will forever be grateful for Lisa and the role she played in one of the most important times in the life me, my wife, and our family.

– D.H. Roslyn, N.Y.